vBay me auction / eBay forums: No Justice for Ebay Sellers! - vBay me auction / eBay forums

I've been buying and selling misc. stuff on ebay for years and feel that there is no seller protection at all. Everything is taken on the buyer's word and it's re-damn-diculous!
I sold some scooter parts that clearly stated in plain english "may take up to 4-6 weeks for delivery" (being shipped parcel post from Hawaii) and the buyer ended up complaining to ebay without giving me a chance to explain. By the time I was able to explain to the buyer the terms he signed into (apparently he forgot that I mentioned the slow shipping in the ad) Ebay simply took the buyers word that I was a flake and issued him a refund.
Now I'm out the parts, the money the item sold for and the shipping charge because it was included in the price. I am getting triple screwed all over a now blown over misunderstanding that resolved itself without needing a refund. How is this fair?